Authentically Adele

In my previous post, we discussed the importance of dealing with pain instead of projecting it onto others. Today, let’s dive deeper into why finding someone to talk to can be a game-changer in your healing journey.

The Truth About Opening Up:

Opening up is challenging; it may feel daunting, especially if you find it difficult to share your struggles. So much thought goes into finding someone to talk to because it exposes vulnerability and may change people’s perceptions. You might worry about bothering others, fear judgment, or think your problems are trivial compared to others. These concerns are valid, but the benefits of sharing your pain far outweigh the negatives. 

Quite often, we always tend to regret it at times, questioning why we even spoke up in the first place. However, past negative experiences stemming from opening up shouldn’t deter you from trying it now. Someone’s advice may be the lifeline you need; always remember that the choice to follow it remains yours. The key is to find someone who offers wisdom and guidance without bias.

Why should you consider finding someone to talk to?

Gain a Fresh Perspective: When you discuss your feelings with another person, you often see your situation from a different angle. Take my experience with family hurt, for example. I hadn’t realized the depth of my pain until I shared it. Talking to my cousin offered a new viewpoint, making me question the underlying pain that drove my family member to hurt me.

Challenge Your Understanding: Speaking with others can challenge your preconceived notions. When I shared my cousin’s perspective with my husband, he too challenged me. I planned to confront this person, thinking it would help me, but my husband’s wisdom made me reconsider. I didn’t want to become the same as the one who hurt me.

Form Of Release: Talking to someone can be like a breath of fresh air for your mind and heart. Have you ever felt better after sharing your thoughts? That’s because you’ve decided to unload the weight you’ve been carrying, and now you’re not alone in it anymore.

Finding the Right Person to Talk To

Seek Someone Who Challenges You: Look for someone who won’t just agree with you but will provide a fresh perspective and challenge you, wanting the best outcome for you and others.

Older People: Don’t always turn to your peers; older individuals often have valuable life experiences to share.

Sometimes, a Stranger Helps: A stranger, unbiased by knowledge of your family, can provide a unique perspective.

In summary, find someone who won’t simply agree with everything you say but will provide wisdom and guidance to help you process your pain best without causing further hurt. Your past pain and family hurt are real; you don’t have to live with it buried anymore. I know that processing it and dealing with it seems much more complicated than leaving it repressed, but the truth is, that’s not doing the best thing for you right now and for your future self. It will hurt right now, but this forms part of your healing. Don’t underestimate the help and restoration from talking to someone on your healing journey.