Authentically Adele

When God Says “No”

So the other day, while washing dishes, I had a moment of reflection that hit deep.

After school, both my children pleaded with me to allow them to play in the park for a little while. I gave in, even though I didn’t want to—I don’t like how the older children behave there. But I stayed and kept a watchful eye on both my children. I noticed my son and his friend from class enjoying playing football together, that was until a group of older boys decided to get involved. Something in me didn’t sit right (I recalled a situation my mum told me when she was here and she let my son play for a short while, a similar story of older boys playing extremely rough and I mean behaviour like yanking from the hood of the jacket and tossing him to the side). So today, that motherly instinct kicked in, and I called my son—it was time to go.

On the way home, I noticed he looked hurt. He shared what the older boys were doing and that one of them had called him stupid. My heart ached for him, of the solid truth, he is not stupid but smart and clever. I also encouraged him to remember this moment—one day, when he’s older, he should choose to be kind to younger children, treating them how he wished those boys had treated him.

Later that evening, during our devotion, my son surprised me—he prayed for those boys all on his own. That moment of grace from his heart left me so proud.

Anyway, back to the moment when I was washing the dishes. I replayed the time in the park over and over in my mind, and I wished I had not given in and stayed in the park today. I should have come straight home. This is when God whispered a lesson to my heart:

“Do you now see why I don’t always allow My children to go where they want? Even when they think it will be good for them, I know what’s waiting there. I know the people, the atmosphere, and the things they may face. Sometimes, I say no—not to hurt them, but to protect them.”

Wow.

How often do we get frustrated when God closes doors? When we want to go somewhere, do something, or be part of something, but the answer is a firm no? Sometimes, it’s not about punishment—it’s about protection. He knows what we can handle and what is best for us.

So if you’re in a season where God is saying no, trust that He sees what you can’t. Some places, people, and situations are not meant for you or ready for you. And that’s okay—because His plans for you are always good.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11

I know that the Lord has something special for you! Hold on, Be patient and Trust Him!